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My husband and I were raising our two beautiful daughters his daughter who was 13 years old and my daughter who was 6 at the time. Him and I do not have a child together but we both have stepped in as step parents to each others daughter.

We had full custody of both with the 13 yr old going to her moms every other weekend. On March 8th is when our entire world came crashing down. The 13 year old didn't get off the bus, we had a good idea where she went. We went to go pick her up and the cops were there, they made us leave. The school had sent our 13 yr old to a friends house to meet up with the local cops to tell the allegations to the officer.

We were forced to leave and we did not have any idea what was happening, 3 hours later another officer showed up at our house asked my husband to go with him to speak with him at the station, and my husband went willingly. The chief of police and a CPS worker shows up to talk to my daughter and I. My 13 yr old step daughter thought her father may try to touch her so my husband was charged with 2 very serious crimes.  

Now CPS has taken both girls the oldest is with her mother and mine is in the states custody. They have made all sorts of accusations that against me that now my husband isn't living here, and both our girls are not here. CPS has not told me much and there is no plan set into motion. My family has had severe mental and emtional distress we are all seperated and have no answers. And since march the child that made allegations had confided in others it was not true....

HELP HELP HELP I want my family back.


Father of two beautiful children and married for over 17 years (together for about 20 years).

After finding out about my ex. looking outside the marriage, she ran away from home taking the children. I filed for divorce. The court papers required her to bring the children back to Houston where she had no place to stay (hence the children would be returned home).

After being served with papers, she answered with a sworn affidavit. In the affidavit, she makes allegations of abuse (toward her), possible rape (toward her), child pornography, and borders on alleging child abuse. The court's knee jerk reaction is to allow the children to stay where they are and not be forced to come back home to Houston.

A few weeks later, we have mediation, in which she absolutely refused to have regular visitation with the children. I consented to supervised visitation because at this point I had not been allowed to see nor speak with my children for over 2 months.

After mediation, she went to the police department and filed charges against me to (I assume) sure up her allegations in her affidavit. The even facilitated them with supposed pictures of injuries that she claims she sustained 5 months before.
The police investigated all her allegations for over 2 months. In the police reports, it states that they could not collaborate the time, date, or any other aspect of the supposed injuries. There was no doctors reports, no police reports, and no time or date to the pictures.

I also gave the police my version of the events. The police closed the case, NO ARRESTS were made, NO CHARGES were brought, NO PROTECTION ORDERS ever sought, the case was closed and that was about 1 year prior to our final divorce hearing.

It should also be noted that she claims to have taken computers to "her local police" department for supposed child pornography and then she claims that the computers were wiped when they found nothing on them and that I pulled the  hard drives and would use them in different computers.

The in the investigation the Houston police department called her local police department about the supposed "child pornography" and in the report states, that there are no records made by my ex in the system (this was about 2 months after she claims to have brought the computers to her local police department.

I filed for modification of the mediation order and that process was dragged out for 8 months. The other attorney used every trick to delay the modification hearing.
After finally getting to see the associate judge for modification, I was given standard visitation. Up until this point, for the last 18 months I was only "allowed" to see my children a total of 9 time for 2 hours each time (all I could afford since I was paying $50 per hour out of pocket for supervision, and also driving 4 hour one way just to see my children.

Right after I picked up my children for visitation, new allegations begun. She immediately called the amicus attorney and said that I bought my daughter a swimsuit (basically alleging that I was doing something to her or with her), the amicus attorney came to my house as a precaution.
Another time, she claimed that a 70 year old lady that was helping me with the children at that time... helped me take nude photos of my child and put them online.

Nothing ever came of these allegations (legally) but they were made and brought to the lawyers attention.

Now comes the final divorce hearing. Even though the case was closed on the supposed photographs she submitted to the police and even through they were unable to collaborate any of her allegations, they were still allowed to be submitted in court.

At the end, I was named JOINT MANAGING CONSERVATOR of the children (means that I have equal custody to the children with a few excepts, where they live, school, and medical). However, my possession time of the children is limited to 4 hours every second and fourth Saturday of the month (in other words 8 hours per month). I have to drive 4 hours to visit with my children and I have to pay to have my visitation supervised.

Please keep in mind, I have never once been arrested.
The court did NOT find me guilty of anything but rather based on the evidence admitted by my ex. found that there could have been family violence directed at my ex.

Again I am JOINT MANAGING CONSERVATOR which can only be appointed if the court finds that you are NOT A THREAT to the children.
To appoint a parent POSSESSORY CONSERVATOR, the court would have to have a solid reason to do so and there is no reasoning what so ever.

This has been a complete nightmare and is the first case that I can find where a parent who has not been arrested or charged with a crime has had their children punished in such a way as to deprive the children of their parent.

I have taken to the point of keeping all records (including conversations with my children). I have video record of my children saying things like "I heard you hit mommy, is that true). My son said that and he is the oldest but breaking down that comment we find, I HEARD means that he was told, YOU HIT MOMMY (self explanatory), IS THAT TRUE means he has never seen it himself.

In another video we have my son again saying, Can you tell me one truth, did you ever hit mama?
After being careful not to demean his mother and to change the subject, he lets out this nugget of information, "MOMMY TOLD ME THAT".

The court will not hear of this even though I tried to get a new trial. I am now attempting an appeal but I am told that this is an uphill battle.

I am now doing this solo because I can no longer afford the high price of a lawyer.
I have gained a lot of information but I am afraid that I still do not know enough to combat the system alone.

Always looking for new information. Please post anything that could help.

Jack J.


About a year and a half ago my now ex-wife and I got into a verbal disagreement during which she got physical.  Unfortunately I was naive - no one in my family had been through anything like this.  The thought of calling the police on my wife never crossed my mind.  I talked to family and friends about my concerns.  Some listened and some did not.  Not even a month later we had another disagreement and my wife got physical again.  This time trying to punch me in the face.  She missed and I moved away.  She followed me and hit me over the head from behind.  She then began to hit and kick me repeatedly.  Long story short - I was able to move away from her and I left with our youngest son thinking this would diffuse the situation like in previous events and we could work through it later.  I was wrong.  After returning home I was arrested at gun point by 6 officers and spent the next 2 days in one of the worst prisons in the country.

Upon my release I immediately filed for divorce.  However, my ex-wife had already made false statements about how I beat her, the kids and the dog!  Because of this and the restraining order she put in place I was not able to return home or see my sons.  After getting a child advocate attorney involved I was able to finally see my sons - under supervision - for 1 hour at a time - after 3 months!  It was horrible.  It cost me a small fortune; I was not able to return to or be involved in my church as I had been and folks that did not know better believe the horrible lies.  Its been a year and a half and I now have 50/50 custody, I am involved in my church again and my name has been cleared in court.  I was never questioned by police, an opposing attorney or a judge.  I nearly lost everything. 

I'm in the process of getting my life back together now but I am living at my parents until my debts are paid; still trying to clear my name in certain circles and most importantly I am still trying to repair my relationship(s) with my sons. 

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers

Anonymous


 

 

 

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2 out of my 3 step-daughters claimed to their father that I inappropriately touched them after my wife found evidence that the two were vaping, and the youngest was sending half-naked pictures to males through Snapchat.  She was disciplined and we took the evidence to their father.  While we were there, the two told him that they knew they weren't supposed to have Social Media and that it wasn't them, and he believed them.

The next week, I have police and their father outside my door while I was at work and was told over the phone that I was accused of inappropriately touching the oldest and youngest girls.  The middle child told us what was happening and what happened over the weekend at a party between the oldest and youngest before they went to talk to their dad.  She also told us that the youngest girl had been bullying my son when my wife and I weren't around and told him that if he told us, she would kick his ass.  We asked him and he told us what had happened.  I took a polygraph test focused on the allegations from the two girls, with a "no deception" rating and handed that over the the detective and CPS.  The police have not contacted me since their "book and release" last year, but CPS "confirmed" that I inappropriately touched the two girls based solely on their interview.  The CPS investigator even admitted in court that she did not look at all of the documents we gave her.  Now we were told to agree that there was "no findings" and that I would have to take the Psychosexual Evaluation, see a therapist to get "educated" on sexual abuse (not have to admit any wrong doing), and now go to parenting classes.  The CPS investigator also said that all the things that were done to my son were only "child's play."

During all of this, my wife gave full legal and physical custody of the girls to their father because the two girls have always wanted to live only with their father.  As soon as they got the TRO on me, their father filed for child support and asked the judge to have my wife pay $500/mo for the 3 girls.

ALL BECAUSE TWO GIRLS GOT CAUGHT DOING SOMETHING THEY WEREN'T SUPPOSED TO DO AND BECAUSE THEY WANTED TO LIVE WITH ONLY THEIR DAD, WHERE THERE ARE BASICALLY NO RULES SINCE HE LIVES WITH HIS PARENTS. - Sonny K.


Starting this year 2018 on New Year's eve police were called to my home in response to a call made by a neighbor about a suicide jump from a bedroom window.  This was due to my wife who was crawling out the window because of being mentally unstable while under the influence of alcohol. The police arrived and knocked on the door in which my wife went outside to talk to them.  She gave them information based on an argument we had that morning. 

I was questioned about this situation and gave my details as I know to be a fact.  I was drinking that night but not drunk.  I did not have slurred speech and was very coherent.  My wife told them enough for them to arrest me under spousal abuse and battery. 

They are claiming I strangled my wife to injure her in the throat and neck.  The police did not look further in the home for evidence but only asked if I had any weapons which they took my locked up handgun. 

The incident that happened on that morning was as follows, I was just waking up and she was making coffee.  She talked to me about the father of her kids and something that made me snarl at her with disapproval.  It got heated in the words and I called her a stupid B.  She walked over to me and poured hot coffee on my head.  It hurt to lean forward due to major back pain I had been treated for recently but came to my feet with anger and pushed her back against the door.  After holding her there for a few seconds I realized she was not going to attack me any further.   She said "I'm not afraid of you."  I let her go and walked out of the room. Went outside and called my dad to what had happened.

The incident caused me to go to jail and stayed there for 5 days, away from my 4 month yr old 1st daughter.  I was then called in for an arraignment which the judge decided a restraining order against me from my wife and children (also 3 step-children).  I was not allowed to speak to my wife and not to see the kids. 

I looked and looked for a reputable attorney and found one that doesn't shut his mouth.... that should have been the RED FLAG!  He didn't promised me he would win, because they are not allowed to do that.  Instead his took advantage of my emotional distress and Coerced me into a wrongful plea.  I received a misdemeanor DV and was never discussed the evidence by my attorney. 

The attorney never went over the DA's evidence nor shared a police report with me.  He told me things would be alright with my job and I would be able to get back into my home.  What a crap that was.  I am innocent I told him.  "It doesn't matter, it's the way it looks" he says.  My attorney is fraud and he is a crook working with the North county San Diego Courts as I find he doesn't win cases.  He just settles or makes deals.

Fathers out there, just stay vigilant and stand your ground if you are innocent.  I'm finding out now this would have been an easy trial to win.  Who knew with a crooked attorney. - Paul F.


In 1987 I was falsely accused and convicted of molesting my 4yr old daughter. Spent 22yr's in prison and am now on parole for the rest of my life. As a part of my so-called counselling I am being forced to undergo a Able,s test shortly. Which of course, I am very apprehensive about.

The biggest problem I've encountered is extreme bias against this type of allegation. No one believes you when you claim innocence. My trial was a joke. Three bias jurors sat on my panel, placed by both the court and my attorney. All of my appeals were denied. The Supreme Court refused to even hear my appeal, basically laughed at me.

Naturally, there's a lot more to my story. Which I will not share currently because I feel it will not do any good and is a waste of my time because no one has listened to me thus far and is willing to offer any help. However, if any one wants to hear my full story and can offer any help. I can be contacted at beltsbyskip@yahoo.com - Randall C.


My husband and I raised his daughter from 3 on. Her mother was in her life but only when it was convenient for her. She used and manipulated her daughter from 3 on. I have 3 of my own kids that my husband and I raised, two girls and a boy.

When his daughter turned 18 she moved out to be with her mom. 3 months later she accused my husband of rape. My husband never laid a hand on her and we were shocked and hurt. My husband was arrested with no proof and I was able to bail him out. 2 years later we finally had our day in court and his daughter was caught in lie after lie and the jury still found him guilty.

My husband now sits in jail waiting his sentencing while she is free to lie and slander his name. There was no evidence and everything she claimed we were able to proof her wrong. The jury made a decision based on a conversation that was taken out of context and recorded with out my husbands permission. The conversation never once did he admit to anything he actually denied any accusations she made.

My kids are heartbroken at losing their dad and I just want my husband home. We have tried and tried to fight this and because of the accusations and the media we are consider guilty with no proof. For 15 years my husband's ex wife has tried to ruin us and she finally got her way. She destroyed a whole family and my husband's daughter has no idea the damage she is doing to everyone. - E.Thompson


I have been married for 11 years with 3 children. We are in the process of divorcing via a mediator.

After the wife  decided we are going to split, she informed me that she had "seen red flags" with one of our daughters, and asked her some questions. I was then accused of a criminal act. nothing happened until I showed her what the estimated support and alimony would be. She then spoke to her therapist and was told to call CPS. This was done, an investigation ensued. None of the children said I did anything.

The case is coming back unfounded. The wife wants be to agree to supervised visitation with the girls, for a period of 10 years. I refused. Now she apparently has a video of my daughter saying that I did something, recorded within the last week. I already retained a criminal attorney. But I don't know what to do about visitation.

I assume that even though the police and State will take no action, would a judge simply listen to whatever video my wife has, and then be subjected to supervised visitation anyway? Or even worse? I have gone through my savings and cannot afford another attorney. Is there anyone out there who could give me some advice, if any?


I did 5 and a half years jail for a crime I didnt, and would never, commit. My new wife and I have just had our newborn baby girl with serious physical medical issues taken away by the authorities in Australia and I don't know how I can survive this. I can freely tell the story of my criminal convictions because I know I am innocent and will go to my grave with a clear conscience. ... A Broken Man


I have been married for 5 years. My wife recently filed for divorce but i have found out a number of things recently about her. She was married 2 times before me, I only knew about one.

Last December I helped her get her green card and since she got the green card she started acted very strangely. I tried to save the marriage but realized after a month or two there was nothing i could and I think she only wanted to get married to get her green card which I also paid for.  I have one child with her and also a step child that I have treated like my own and even calls me DAD.  I have always took very good of my family, work 50+ hours a week and never did anything wrong to her or them.  Now she is making up lies about me and trying to destroy my life. She gave a false injunction to get a restraining order, making up that I beat her and threatened her even though no police were ever called and no marks are on her. She also signed a new lease behind my back to get me out my condo.  

Please advise I need help and in a really bad situation.   I am only able to see my child once a week for one hour under supervised watch.     This is my first marriage and i have a clean criminal record. If you can give me any kind of advise or help it would be greatly appreciated.  Jiri Jira- 239-200-6717   GJira1975@yahoo.com




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